"Why is it we think we must handle everything alone? For men, I'm guessing it's the fear-of-vulnerabiliity thing. But what's up with us women? Just who are we trying to impress? We presumably have friends and/or family to lean on in times of need. So why is it so hard to do? Or is it just me?" -- Doona Kauffman
I'm feeling the dumps at the moment, although just half an hr ago, I was perfectly ok. Let's reverse here & go back to the ending of my day. I just had my law test, which was easier than I expected (sulk. I should have studied half less. Imagine all the other more interesting stuff I could have done in half an hr?). Anyway, I was feeling alright, in fact, just got a positive acceptance to attend a written test for a potential career change. I made the mistake of mentioning it to *M and whollah, there goes my ok mood. I just read that "chance makes our parents but choice makes our friends". Well, on normal days, I won't agree, but today, after *M, I would be more inclined to agree.
*M immediately started nagging about my lack of prospects aka low low pay at job, about how I should look for another job, completely ignoring the reason I took the job was for the fact it sponsored my studies and that 4 years down the road I can apply for my MBA. *sigh*. Then I made the ultimate mistake of mentioning that I found the current job a bit slow. HELLO. I meant work pace for goodness' sake, not the pay! But no, *M had to jump right in and say of cos I'm find the job slow, the pay is so low, I start so much lower than all my friends, etc ,etc. *roll my eyes*. MOTHERS. And my *M isn't that conservative or traditional, but boy, does she put a lot of credence on pay. *sigh*. I mentioned that pay isn't the most important consideration for me at the moment, and she completely stomped over me, did I say stomped? I meant ran bloodshod over me. At which point I decided to not explain & just listened. Anyway, she went on to completely ignored my planning ahead to do MBA (who cares so long as in short term I get high pay, according to her) and then she complains that my current job has too heavy workload, overworking staff, etc, etc, while contradicting herself by agreeing that the work pace is way too slow for me. *arched my brows*. Someone please wake me up. Somewhere, lines seem to have gotten crossed.
Anyway, so back to my original point, I'm feeling a bit down at the moment, but typically, despite having a large clique of close friends, I feel compelled to keep it to myself or rather, I'm only sharing with my friends once I'm over it and can laugh about it on hindsight, which is not now. Thus, decided to resort to what I thought I won't do, make my blog into a space for whining. *sigh* And I do so hate to whining & whiners. And in case you can't tell, I'm really quite invincible usually, not given to vulnerable moments or mood swings. In fact, I'm positively intimidating. And it's other people who confide in me. *sigh* What is it about mothers that can so effectively affect our moods? Or it is me?
I'm feeling the dumps at the moment, although just half an hr ago, I was perfectly ok. Let's reverse here & go back to the ending of my day. I just had my law test, which was easier than I expected (sulk. I should have studied half less. Imagine all the other more interesting stuff I could have done in half an hr?). Anyway, I was feeling alright, in fact, just got a positive acceptance to attend a written test for a potential career change. I made the mistake of mentioning it to *M and whollah, there goes my ok mood. I just read that "chance makes our parents but choice makes our friends". Well, on normal days, I won't agree, but today, after *M, I would be more inclined to agree.
*M immediately started nagging about my lack of prospects aka low low pay at job, about how I should look for another job, completely ignoring the reason I took the job was for the fact it sponsored my studies and that 4 years down the road I can apply for my MBA. *sigh*. Then I made the ultimate mistake of mentioning that I found the current job a bit slow. HELLO. I meant work pace for goodness' sake, not the pay! But no, *M had to jump right in and say of cos I'm find the job slow, the pay is so low, I start so much lower than all my friends, etc ,etc. *roll my eyes*. MOTHERS. And my *M isn't that conservative or traditional, but boy, does she put a lot of credence on pay. *sigh*. I mentioned that pay isn't the most important consideration for me at the moment, and she completely stomped over me, did I say stomped? I meant ran bloodshod over me. At which point I decided to not explain & just listened. Anyway, she went on to completely ignored my planning ahead to do MBA (who cares so long as in short term I get high pay, according to her) and then she complains that my current job has too heavy workload, overworking staff, etc, etc, while contradicting herself by agreeing that the work pace is way too slow for me. *arched my brows*. Someone please wake me up. Somewhere, lines seem to have gotten crossed.
Anyway, so back to my original point, I'm feeling a bit down at the moment, but typically, despite having a large clique of close friends, I feel compelled to keep it to myself or rather, I'm only sharing with my friends once I'm over it and can laugh about it on hindsight, which is not now. Thus, decided to resort to what I thought I won't do, make my blog into a space for whining. *sigh* And I do so hate to whining & whiners. And in case you can't tell, I'm really quite invincible usually, not given to vulnerable moments or mood swings. In fact, I'm positively intimidating. And it's other people who confide in me. *sigh* What is it about mothers that can so effectively affect our moods? Or it is me?
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