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Tuesday, February 28, 2006
Randomness
Tuesday, February 07, 2006
CNY 2
Flashback:
On the 2nd day of CNY, when yours truly was trying to take a nap before the sleepover at *Eccentric’s – Yours truly’s mom was obviously in a chatty mood, so yours truly gave up trying to nap and asked a (in my view, simple question that got me a oh-so-detailed answer) question on “how is Auntie-A related to us?”
M: She’s Granny’s goddaughter. (And this is the part of the plot out of a romance novel!). Did you know that Auntie A is the 2nd wife of Uncle?
Me: Oh? I didn’t know.
M: Yeah. She helped bring up Uncle’s first wife’s 2 sons.
Me: Ok. I didn’t know that. I assume Uncle’s first wife passed away? (Bear in mind this was like the 70s if not earlier, I didn’t think divorce was common than)
M: Oh no. Uncle’s first wife fell for the butcher and Auntie fell for your uncle.
Me: Huh?
Mom: Auntie went to work for Uncle as housekeeper/cleaner, etc and she fell in love with Uncle and got pregnant (at this point, I must have had a scandalize look. Pardon my prudishness). Not when Uncle’s wife was still living with him. Uncle’s 1st wife ran off with the butcher and left Uncle and his 2 sons. So Auntie who was already employed as their housekeeper, helped Uncle take care of his 2 sons. Auntie was already in love with Uncle even before his wife ran off, so naturally things got to a point where Auntie was “in the family way”.
Me: Ah. Ok. (pardon me, does Auntie’s life-story sound like a badly written romance drivel to you?)
M: Anyway, Auntie didn’t dare to tell her parents, so she confided in your Granny. Granny went and spoke to Auntie’s parents and arranged Auntie’s marriage to Uncle.
(the other parts of the long description by yours truly’s mom shall go unmentioned.)
:::
You note that this has absolutely nothing to do with how Auntie A became Granny’s goddaughter? Hah. That is another story on my deceased grandfather and dreams. Anyway, yours truly doubt anyone wants to hear more about her relatives and their intricate complicated relationship, suffice to say, it is apparently very common to have god-parents/siblings/children in yours truly’s family with lots of “superstition” involved. *dryly*
Ok, my point, and yes, I actually do have a point in relating the above. I just wanted to point out that incredulous as it might seem, romance drivel and stupid crying-flicks we read/see on TV actually might have some basis in truth. OMG. Yours truly was horrified.
To be honest, this CNY, I heard so many scandalous *true life-stories of my relatives that I was *shocked and *appalled by. Oh please, don’t get me wrong, yours truly have no problems with Auntie A being the 2nd wife and such, it’s the fact that she went to work as a housekeeper, fell in love with the master of the house with *unfaithful wife, got pregnant, etc, such *stereotype plot that shocked me. Yours truly have a pretty high threshold of acceptance, in the “you can do whatever you want with your life so long as you do not hurt anyone in your actions” type of way, but really, such stereotypes horrifies me. *archly*
Isn’t it frightening to look back and think, “my life has been a stereotype”?
Anyway, let’s ponder whether such stereotypes are stereotypes because it is common that people fall into such situations or are such situations are overly dramatized that it becomes stereotypes?
I have no idea. I only know that if indeed such lives are rare, than apparently, all the odds favor my extended family. Did I mention that I have an aunt on my father’s side who is also the 2nd wife and then helped raised the 1st wife son, etc, etc? *laconical*
I wonder whether my aunts fall into such situations because they can’t help themselves, or was it because they were obsessed about the notion of a grand illicit passion? Hmm….lately, I’ve discovered that people in my extended family and my parents’ group of friends provide such an *interesting cauldron of *stereotypes to study. I mean, think about it, I have samples of *accidental pregnancies resulting in hasty marriage, *mercenary woman chasing rich man, *abusive father/stepmother who ought to be shot, *employees who fall for their employers and become 2nd wives, *mistresses of rich man, *men with dual families, etc, etc.
Wow. I’m impressed. And there I thought older generation people are more conservative. *grimace*
Decision time:
Would you rather live an ordinary life or a life that is such a stereotype?
On the 2nd day of CNY, when yours truly was trying to take a nap before the sleepover at *Eccentric’s – Yours truly’s mom was obviously in a chatty mood, so yours truly gave up trying to nap and asked a (in my view, simple question that got me a oh-so-detailed answer) question on “how is Auntie-A related to us?”
M: She’s Granny’s goddaughter. (And this is the part of the plot out of a romance novel!). Did you know that Auntie A is the 2nd wife of Uncle?
Me: Oh? I didn’t know.
M: Yeah. She helped bring up Uncle’s first wife’s 2 sons.
Me: Ok. I didn’t know that. I assume Uncle’s first wife passed away? (Bear in mind this was like the 70s if not earlier, I didn’t think divorce was common than)
M: Oh no. Uncle’s first wife fell for the butcher and Auntie fell for your uncle.
Me: Huh?
Mom: Auntie went to work for Uncle as housekeeper/cleaner, etc and she fell in love with Uncle and got pregnant (at this point, I must have had a scandalize look. Pardon my prudishness). Not when Uncle’s wife was still living with him. Uncle’s 1st wife ran off with the butcher and left Uncle and his 2 sons. So Auntie who was already employed as their housekeeper, helped Uncle take care of his 2 sons. Auntie was already in love with Uncle even before his wife ran off, so naturally things got to a point where Auntie was “in the family way”.
Me: Ah. Ok. (pardon me, does Auntie’s life-story sound like a badly written romance drivel to you?)
M: Anyway, Auntie didn’t dare to tell her parents, so she confided in your Granny. Granny went and spoke to Auntie’s parents and arranged Auntie’s marriage to Uncle.
(the other parts of the long description by yours truly’s mom shall go unmentioned.)
:::
You note that this has absolutely nothing to do with how Auntie A became Granny’s goddaughter? Hah. That is another story on my deceased grandfather and dreams. Anyway, yours truly doubt anyone wants to hear more about her relatives and their intricate complicated relationship, suffice to say, it is apparently very common to have god-parents/siblings/children in yours truly’s family with lots of “superstition” involved. *dryly*
Ok, my point, and yes, I actually do have a point in relating the above. I just wanted to point out that incredulous as it might seem, romance drivel and stupid crying-flicks we read/see on TV actually might have some basis in truth. OMG. Yours truly was horrified.
To be honest, this CNY, I heard so many scandalous *true life-stories of my relatives that I was *shocked and *appalled by. Oh please, don’t get me wrong, yours truly have no problems with Auntie A being the 2nd wife and such, it’s the fact that she went to work as a housekeeper, fell in love with the master of the house with *unfaithful wife, got pregnant, etc, such *stereotype plot that shocked me. Yours truly have a pretty high threshold of acceptance, in the “you can do whatever you want with your life so long as you do not hurt anyone in your actions” type of way, but really, such stereotypes horrifies me. *archly*
Isn’t it frightening to look back and think, “my life has been a stereotype”?
Anyway, let’s ponder whether such stereotypes are stereotypes because it is common that people fall into such situations or are such situations are overly dramatized that it becomes stereotypes?
I have no idea. I only know that if indeed such lives are rare, than apparently, all the odds favor my extended family. Did I mention that I have an aunt on my father’s side who is also the 2nd wife and then helped raised the 1st wife son, etc, etc? *laconical*
I wonder whether my aunts fall into such situations because they can’t help themselves, or was it because they were obsessed about the notion of a grand illicit passion? Hmm….lately, I’ve discovered that people in my extended family and my parents’ group of friends provide such an *interesting cauldron of *stereotypes to study. I mean, think about it, I have samples of *accidental pregnancies resulting in hasty marriage, *mercenary woman chasing rich man, *abusive father/stepmother who ought to be shot, *employees who fall for their employers and become 2nd wives, *mistresses of rich man, *men with dual families, etc, etc.
Wow. I’m impressed. And there I thought older generation people are more conservative. *grimace*
Decision time:
Would you rather live an ordinary life or a life that is such a stereotype?
Thursday, February 02, 2006
CNY Blues
As a marriageable female of a certain age, it is inevitable to be asked the *B/M question, otherwise known as the boyfriend/marriage Q during the oh-so-festive-season-where-relatives-whom-you-can’t-care-less-about-and-who-can’t-care-less-about-you imagine they have the right to interrogate and ask confidential and personal questions under the blanket right of being relatives. *roll eyes*
Yours truly’s recommendations on how to wiggle out of it...
Relative 1: B/M? (In dialect, of course)
Me: *smile and look around uncomprehendingly.
(Just leave the answering for one’s oh-so-versatile and eloquent mother.")
Relative 2: B/M?
Me: *blush *cough *shake head
(this is recommended only if one is able to blush at will, & convincingly and more importantly, to be executed only when one’s parents are not around to assist. This is so because it is possible that the first few attempts at blushing will mislead said relative into assuming that there is a potential guy in the picture and one is *shy. This will then result in being further interrogated and worse, your parents might join the field. Yikes!)
Relative 3: B/M?
Me: *lol* Of cos not, I want to work for a few years, travel lots of places and go back to school. B? M? Oh please. Who the hell has the time to take care of a guy?
(this is only recommended again when one’s parents are not ard to see one being patronizing of said relative)
Relative 4: B/M?
Me: Oh, lots of B, but M? No way. *shake head* M is for idiots.
(please refer to Relative 3 comment above)
Oh dear evilness, just kill me. *groan* And please, don't ask which approach yours truly took. Curiousity kills the cat, or rather it would more likely give you a *black eye.
Actually, that was an exaggeration. This year’s CNY is surprisingly more bearable than expected. Yours truly didn’t have to see too many obnoxious relatives or more importantly, speak to them. Thank Evilness!
Plus yours truly had a relatively fun night/sleepover at *Eccentric’s place even though we spent quite a bit of time playing TABOO but I like. *grin* Oh dear, does the fact that I’m not moaning about the torturous CNY implies that yours truly have mellowed? Or worse, has my threshold of tolerance for such *social aka boring aka miserable aka tedious, etc, gatherings increased?
I hope not.
Probably, yours truly has just mastered the art of being *obnoxious*sarcastic*patronizing*evil without offending relatives. *deadpan* In other words, yours truly was being *rude and they didn’t realize it. *hah!
As an irrelevant aside, saw a cousin yours truly have not seen in like 3 years and oh dreary dreary me, he has grown so-so feminine, and unless I read him wrongly, with certain issues on his sexual orientation.
It could just be me thinking *ridiculous thoughts
But I think
Not.
Shrug.
Yours truly’s recommendations on how to wiggle out of it...
Relative 1: B/M? (In dialect, of course)
Me: *smile and look around uncomprehendingly.
(Just leave the answering for one’s oh-so-versatile and eloquent mother.")
Relative 2: B/M?
Me: *blush *cough *shake head
(this is recommended only if one is able to blush at will, & convincingly and more importantly, to be executed only when one’s parents are not around to assist. This is so because it is possible that the first few attempts at blushing will mislead said relative into assuming that there is a potential guy in the picture and one is *shy. This will then result in being further interrogated and worse, your parents might join the field. Yikes!)
Relative 3: B/M?
Me: *lol* Of cos not, I want to work for a few years, travel lots of places and go back to school. B? M? Oh please. Who the hell has the time to take care of a guy?
(this is only recommended again when one’s parents are not ard to see one being patronizing of said relative)
Relative 4: B/M?
Me: Oh, lots of B, but M? No way. *shake head* M is for idiots.
(please refer to Relative 3 comment above)
Oh dear evilness, just kill me. *groan* And please, don't ask which approach yours truly took. Curiousity kills the cat, or rather it would more likely give you a *black eye.
Actually, that was an exaggeration. This year’s CNY is surprisingly more bearable than expected. Yours truly didn’t have to see too many obnoxious relatives or more importantly, speak to them. Thank Evilness!
Plus yours truly had a relatively fun night/sleepover at *Eccentric’s place even though we spent quite a bit of time playing TABOO but I like. *grin* Oh dear, does the fact that I’m not moaning about the torturous CNY implies that yours truly have mellowed? Or worse, has my threshold of tolerance for such *social aka boring aka miserable aka tedious, etc, gatherings increased?
I hope not.
Probably, yours truly has just mastered the art of being *obnoxious*sarcastic*patronizing*evil without offending relatives. *deadpan* In other words, yours truly was being *rude and they didn’t realize it. *hah!
As an irrelevant aside, saw a cousin yours truly have not seen in like 3 years and oh dreary dreary me, he has grown so-so feminine, and unless I read him wrongly, with certain issues on his sexual orientation.
It could just be me thinking *ridiculous thoughts
But I think
Not.
Shrug.
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